Should a Christian raise a child with the other parent but they are not married?
Can a Christian live with his/her child's parent when they are not married, for the sake of raising the child together? Assuming one of them became a born again Christian after the child was born. There is no sexual relations between them. Will it be a sin for them to live together?
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Seth Freeman
Supporter
Having a roommate is not a sin, no. However, while I would commend the couple for trying to create some sort of stable environment for the child, I think in the end, it would more than likely backfire. Would either parent desire to date or get married themselves? If so, then the living arrangement would be temporary at best, and then in the end you're still splitting apart which would be difficult for the child. I think we all recognize that a broken home is not something we want for our children, but trying to pretend that the home isn't broken by being roommates when there is no true relationship is not going to fool the child. They're smarter than we give them credit for.
Andrea Spirit
Supporter
Ephesians 4:27 says don't give place to the devil. Personally, I don't believe that it's a sin because there is no fornication involve, keep in mind that if you look at a person in lust it's still fornication. But if there's no fornication involve you're clean but why take the chance, why give place to the devil, he conniving and will take advantage of that situation. Be wise when it comes to the scheme of the devil, he doesn't strike immediately but you can trust and believe that he will. GOD BLESS
Danny Ching
Supporter
You can opt not to get married, but it will be extremely complicated: (1) Eventually, the child will ask about the marital status of his parents. As a Christian, they will have to explain their situation in clear and simple terms. We do not want the child to use his parents past sins as a justification to do likewise in the future. (2) What if one of the child's parent decides to marry someone else? How will the situation be affected? Will the parents now move away from each other (i don't think continuing to live together is acceptable). Co-raising the child may be the easiest thing to do in the short term, but it is ultimately untenable in the long term.
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