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My wife and I have been Married 50 years this coming April. I quickly realized that God was talking about leadership. Also I was blessed to have parents who understood the concept of the man leading. But how do you lead? Not by force on any decision but by joint decision and asking God to lead us. Then we agree and I make the final decision.
As far as the home making I tell her the house is hers. I also learned a long time ago that a happy wife makes for a happier life.