S. Michael Houdmann Supporter Got Questions Ministries

Oral sex, also known as "cunnilingus" when performed on females and "fellatio" when performed on males, is not mentioned in the Bible. There are two primary questions that are asked in regards to o...

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July 01 2013 • 14 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Nick Koogler Supporter

Your two breasts are like two fawns,
twins of a gazelle,
that graze among the lilies (Song of Solomon 4:5 ESV)
Your lips drip nectar, my bride;
honey and milk are under your tongue;
the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon (Song of Solomon 4:11 ESV)
Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates
with all choicest fruits,
henna with nard (Song of Solomon 4:13 ESV)
She
Awake, O north wind,
and come, O south wind!
Blow upon my garden,
let its spices flow.

Let my beloved come to his garden,
and eat its choicest fruits (Song of Solomon 4:16 ESV)

The above exchange was between Solomon and his Bride. Some believe that within this exchange the fruits are a description of the genitals of both of them. Thus the last passage is precisely about oral sex. This is a very erotic moment that people shy away from due to the sexual and sensual nature. Because it is romantic poetry it is hard to draw concrete principles but one thing is certain. There is definitely foreplay and God is encouraging it: Eat, friends, drink, and be drunk with love (Song of Solomon 5:1 ESV) the only place God speaks in this book is to encourage their behavior. It seems to me that the only thing the bible "potentially" says about oral sex is good. But before you comment on this post I suggest you study "Songs of Solomon" on your own and ask yourself the question "Why did God place this book in the canon of Holy Scripture?" I would also suggest a few books or commentaries that could clarify the book better than me. 

I would like to point out though, that oral sex IS sex! Thus, if done in any fashion outside of marriage or with out mutual consent it IS sin. What God intended for our pleasure we MUST NOT abuse.

July 08 2014 • 1 response • Vote Up • Share • Report

Jyotish Mishra Supporter Saved by grace through faith in JESUS CHRIST.

We understand from scriptures that God has given us different parts in our bodiy with a specific purpose. Please see 1 Corinthians 12:12-30 for a greater insight. God has given us mouth to eat and drink. He has given us sex organs for procreation and family bonding and to have intimate relationship between wife & husband. That is why I believe He created us as male and female as we read in Genesis 1:27.

Though there is no direct commandment either to prove or disprove whether oral sex in sin or not but it is not the natural use of the organs used in the act and I believe on the basis of Romans 1:26 that oral sex is sin. God has given intelligence to evaluate our actions and if we lack wisdom let us ask Him and He will give us wisdom freely. This is His promise to us as we read in James 1:5. Let us do everything decently and in order as we read in 1 Cor 14:40. Let us not rebel against God just because there is no express 'no'.

February 06 2015 • 9 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Philip Davies Supporter

Oral sex is not a sin. Let's be clear about that. 

The Bible tells us that sins only happen when you break one of God's laws. If there is no law against something, then no sin can be committed. Where there is no law, there is no sin (Rom 4:15).

There is no law of God prohibiting oral sex. Neither is there any law against masturbation. Therefore there can be no sin in these activities.

Our difficulty is that because of our culture or our upbringing or our own personal sense of taste and decency, we may object to these things and we tell others that they are sins to bring them in line with our own views. Humans like nothing more than to create all kinds of additional rules which are not in the Bible and we make other people feel guilty quite unnecessarily. 

But there is no law against oral sex (or masturbation), and where there is no Law, there is no sin.

Regards,
Philip

December 24 2014 • 4 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Mel Brown Supporter

Usually, after a married couple have been married for a long time, the frequency of love making lessons and at the same time it seems to take longer for each partner to experience the height in love making. Once this occurs usually the man is looking for ways to fix this problem. Porn, pills or oral sex is considered. 

There is the natural use of our bodies and the unnatural use; Romans 1. God's method is toes to toes and nose to nose. The mouth is not a sex organ. I would never ask my wife to do something unnatural. I have more love and respect to do something like that. Yes, Hebrews 14:4 says "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge." But this is only in its natural use: toes to toes and nose to nose. I might add the anus is not a sex organ either. Let's be real about this matter.
M.L. Brown

March 01 2015 • 4 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Bridgette Maynor Supporter

There are so many issues that Christians carry in regards to sex. I have experienced seeing this being a nurse and a minister. The Christian community collectively needs to get beyond our taboo feelings regarding sex and promote Christian sexual ethics. Any type of sex outside of marriage is a sin; but, oral sex is not separated from this. If oral sex is done outside of marriage, as with any sex, it is a sin. Hebrews 13:4 states that marriage is to be honored and to guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband (The Message version). We as Christians need to emphasize a new Christian ethic where we teach the young that sex is for marriage but yet answer their questions honestly. We also need to enrich marriages so that sexual questions can be answered in a safe, Christian setting.

May 06 2015 • 1 response • Vote Up • Share • Report

Walt Pryor Supporter Retired man, seventy three.

Dear Brothers and Sisters;

Oral sex is homosexual sex. God looks on oral sex as unclean. Medical reports I have read reveal oral sex is leading to increases in Oral and Throat Cancer. I do not say this as one who is righteous, but as one who has stumbled and sinned. May I suggest, the Bible, God, and all those stand for, are not about our pleasure? They are about serving God, and serving His people. We humans are easily deceived and misled, we are weak. So I am only pointing out what I believe God desires for our lives.

2 Corinthians 7:1 Therefore, since we have promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates the body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God.

Romans 12:1 I appeal to you therefore brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, Which is your spiritual worship.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Or do you not know that your body is the temple of Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price, therefore glorify God in your body, and in your Spirit, which are God's.

December 22 2015 • 2 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

James Kraft Supporter 74 year old retired pipeline worker

God made us sexual beings so that we could have pleasure through it between a husband and wife. Sex is the glue that holds marriages together. What a husband and wife do in bed is between them and them alone. To say that we are not to have pleasure in sex is to say that God only meant sex for procreation.

We are not to put people in bondage over what is between the husband and wife. Sex outside of marriage is wrong, but in the confines of marriage there is no wrong. 

You should all go and read the book of the song of Solomon to get a glimpse of the intimacy between lovers. It will enlighten some to really enjoy sex again with no inhibitions.

February 16 2017 • 1 response • Vote Up • Share • Report

Al Mari Supporter Private practice as a cardiovascular & thoracic surgeon

It depends. And, the Holy Spirit of sanctification will guide us. 

I Thes 4:3-5. "For this is the will of God,...ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honor. Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God"

The Greek word for vessel is "skeuos" and in common parlance a metaphor for "body"; maybe "equipment or apparatus" but also figuratively a "wife"; sanctification is "hagiamos" means purity; concupiscence is "epithymia" means longing desire for what is forbidden. 

How then can our "body, wife/spouse, equipment or apparatus" be sanctified and "stay away from this longing desire for what is forbidden"?

After Jesus' death, which reconciled us to the Father, Jesus has to be resurrected (we are saved by his life, saved not proximately by death, Rom. 5:10) so that the promise of the Holy Spirit will be sent (Jn.16:7; Lu. 24:49) and in-dwell in us (from Pentecost, Acts 1:4; 2:1-13) to guide us to be "one" in "mind" (Phil. 2:5) with the Son of God and the Father. We are in this stage of purification or "sanctification and honor", and this "spirit of power" will help us.

We know that sex of and by itself is not sin. It is with whom "our sex" (organ) is used. With whom, differentiates what is sinful and what is not. To do it with others, not your wife, is adultery, fornication, incest, homosexuality, bestiality, etc. Which are judged to be sins. But, how one does it, so long as with married male-female couple, Paul said, "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."(Heb 13:4). Undefiled/"amiantos", covers all sexual acts, even as "deviant" as they may. But, does this "undefiled" has limits? 

Notice what Paul's concept of "marriage" is in: I Cor 7:33-34 "But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife...but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband". This precept is reinforced in I Cor. 7:4, " the wife has no power of her own body but the husband.." and vice-versa. See also Ephesians 5:21-33 and Colossians 3:18-19.

Are there boundaries to the "allowance" regarding "sex in marriage"?

Clearly, the principle of sex in marriage is on "love" which is "giving, not getting"; it is directed on the other spouse (to please him/her), not "self", i.e., sex is not for our own selfish pleasure but for the other spouse, even when simultaneously the sexual act (also) pleases "self". The operative word and the proximate end of sex is "the other's" pleasure, the key focus of "sex in marriage". And, another limit of "undefiled concept" is "with consent" (v-5), with "benevolence";do not force either one to a sexual act he/she is not comfortable with. There is mutual sexual responsibility in marriage but directed to the other spouse, not "self".

Fellatio, cunnilingus or masturbation if for "self" and self-centered, therefore are not advised, even if the object of "imagination or stimulation" is one's spouse. But, as Paul said (not God), "I would have you without carefulness. (V-32) " amerimnos" to prevent anxiety
(v-33 ESV), if one "cannot contain",then "do it"(v9).

But, if we sin, we know though that we have our High Priest to come to for forgiveness and repentance. "Every one has the proper gift of God, one after this manner and another after that (v-7); "as God has distributed to every man, as The Lord has called every one, so let him walk"(v-17). 

Let us reckon ourselves as if "unmarried" as in I Cor. 7:32, 34, "..that he/she may be holy both in body and in spirit..." For the "time is short" (v 19-24), See also v19-24, to buttress this principle that the present world's cares are miniscule compared to the "next world's" honor. 

The "spirit of God" in us can sanctify and overcome this temptation.

February 10 2015 • 2 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Edith St-Hilaire Supporter

We know that all Scripture is breathed out by God. (2 Timothy 3:16). Thus, we have to ask ourselves the purpose of the beautiful poem between husband and wife, namely Song of Solomon. We see the deep love between husband and wife, and this love is spiritual, emotional and physical. God designed marriage between husband and wife, and it is beautiful when there is commitment for each other, care for each other and delight in each other.

Gotquestions.org does a lovely job in summarizing Song of Solomon. For those confused about what the book and its purpose, i recommend reading it.

December 03 2021 • 0 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Victor Sopeju Supporter

God created different organs in the human body for different and unique functions. In oral sex, the mouth is being used with the natural sex organ. In God’s wisdom, the mouth is to be used for speaking and eating only. If the mouth is used for sex, I believe it is being MISUSED. 

The Bible makes it clear in 1 Corinthians 6:9 “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,” The word “ABUSE” here is the synonymous to “MISUSE”. 

The word “abusers” means those who abuse/MISUSE. The word “mankind” in the text means the human race, both male and female. It is my opinion, therefore, that any man and woman, either within or outside the marriage setting, who engage in abusing/misusing the mouth with or without the consent of his or her partner is committing sin. 

For the “abusers of themselves with mankind” are grouped with those who will not inherit the kingdom of God. They may make claims to be wise, innovative or exploring, but God sees them as violating the purpose for which He created the mouth.

The drive to have full pleasure which God incorporates in sexual activites should not make any person married or unmarried to displease God and eventually go to an everlasting punishment in hell. 

Let us further consider Romans 1:21,24 - “Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves.”

June 13 2018 • 0 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Jonathan Seadon Supporter

Having read all the responses above it’s clear to me that the bible is not clear on the answer to this question. I’m actually more confused now than before I had read this answers.

There are a couple of verses I like to refer to when I’m confused if something might be sinful.

“Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31

Philippians 2:3
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves.

If you are keeping to these principles in your marriages I don’t think you have anything to worry about. That said if one of you is uncomfortable with oral sex, you wouldn’t be honouring your partner or God by asking them to try it.

Sorry I know this isn’t a clear answer, but it’s the best I can find. 

1 Samuel 16:7 
New International Version
But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."

April 18 2019 • 0 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Jack Gutknecht Supporter ABC/DTS graduate, guitar music ministry Baptist church

Sodomy (/ˈsɒdəmi/) or buggery (British English) is generally anal or oral sex between people or sexual activity between a person and a non-human animal (bestiality), but it may also mean any non-procreative sexual activity. Originally, the term sodomy, which is derived from the story of Sodom and Gomorrah in the Book of Genesis, was commonly restricted to anal sex. Sodomy laws in many countries criminalized the behavior. In the Western world, many of these laws have been overturned or are not routinely enforced.
SODOM [ISBE]

SODOM - sod'-um (cedhom; Sodoma) One of the 5 CITIES OF THE PLAIN (which see), destroyed by fire from heaven in the time of Abraham and Lot (Gen 19:24). The wickedness of the city became proverbial. The sin of sodomy was an offense against nature frequently connected with idolatrous practices (see Rawlinson, History of Phoenicia). See SODOMITE. The fate of Sodom and Gomorrah is used as a warning to those who reject the gospel (Mt 10:15; 11:24; 2 Pet 2:6; Jude 1:7). The word is used in a typical sense in Rev 11:8. Sodom was probably located in plain South of the Dead Sea, now covered with water. The name is still preserved in Jebel Usdum (Mt. Sodom).

SODOMITE [ISBE]
SODOMITE - sod'-om-it (qadhesh, feminine qedheshah): Qadhesh denotes properly a male temple prostitute, one of the class attached to certain sanctuaries of heathen deities, and "consecrated" to the impure rites of their worship. Such gross and degrading practices in Yahweh's land could only be construed as a flagrant outrage; and any association of these with His pure worship was abhorrent (Dt 23:17-18): The presence of Sodomites is noted as a mark of degeneracy in Rehoboam's time (1 Ki 14:24). Asa endeavored to get rid of them (1 Ki 15:12), and Jehoshaphat routed them out (1 Ki 22:46). Subsequent corruptions opened the way for their return, and Josiah had to break down their houses which were actually "in the house of the Lord" (2 Ki 23:7). The feminine qedheshah is translated "prostitute" in Gen 38:21,22; Hos 4:14; in Dt 23:17 "prostitute" (the King James Version margin "sodomitess," the Revised Version margin transliterates). The English word is, of course, derived from Sodom, the inhabitants of which were in evil repute for unnatural vice.

However, I agree with Michael in his saying that oral sex between married partners [assuming this is a heterosexual relationship] is not prohibited in the Bible, and is not a sin when both partners agree to it.

April 22 2019 • 0 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Janet Hegna Supporter

I read all the responses so far, and now I'm liking what I've always been told about the Song of Solomon better now then ever. I've always been told that the Song of Solomon was a type of love letter (if you will) from Jesus to us telling us how deeply He loves us, how much He wants an intimate relationship with us, and how great it is when it happens. I believe God has made body parts to do certain functions, and I believe the mouth is to eat, drink, praise and glorify God. Have a blessed day.

March 10 2022 • 1 response • Vote Up • Share • Report