I'm asking this because my partner and I have been together for about 7 years, we met in high school, we're fully committed to each other, and we've never been with anyone else but ourselves. We do not have the funds to have a nice wedding. And we don't want to get married in a courthouse.
1 Corinthians 6:9
ESV - 9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality.
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This depends on the definition of marriage. If you think marriage is something only the state can perform, then you will get a different answer than if you think marriage doesn't need to be licensed by a government.
I suggest whatever marriage is, in the bible, it should cover all times from the beginning until now, and all places from Eden to New York. If your definition of marriage doesn't hold for Adam and Eve, or doesn't apply in Timbuktu, you need to look again at what marriage really is. When you find that out, you will know if you are married or not and whether sex is a valid part of your relationship.
Phillip