Danny Hickman

The church struggles greatly with the sex subject. It always has. Its motto is almost identical with First Lady Nancy Regan's advice on the subject of drug use: 'Just Say No.'

The main difference in the two inclinations is the reason for the appetite. Drug use involves a troubled spirit, an incontinent disposition. A sexual appetite is as normal as the deepening of a male's voice. Parents can start early with their child, alerting them to the inevitable. At the appropriate time, parents can level with the child about the healthy nature of having a sex drive.

Many don't because somewhere within them is the idea that having a sex drive is wrong, and can be avoided with bible study, prayer, or some other religious exercise. Of course, the young child can be talked into believing that they are somehow at fault for having these desires, without the parents even trying to teach them that.

The church confirms the erroneous reckoning; you don't want to marry, you shouldn't want to have sex. Paul wrote that it's better to marry than to burn with passion (1 Cor 7:9).

Bad marriages are too numerous to measure because of the history of that teaching. People once got married so they could have sex with a clean conscience. Clear thinking people don't do that now.

What's the answer?

Get a good understanding of what Paul was trying to say! Did he mean being in a bad marriage is better than burning with passion? Maybe then, but it ain't now! I doubt that he meant that.

December 04 2022 • Report