Should I marry a non-believer with whom I already have children with?
I had children with a non-believer before I got baptized. Do I marry him? We have been together for 22 years, live in the same house and We have two boys. Basically we are a family unit. From the outset I have always been a believer, going to church and participating in conventions but I wasn't totally committed to the faith even when I met my partner, nothing changed apart from the obvious. He has always been supportive and has never stood in my way. The children and I pray, sing hymns read the bible and attend church (which they love) I got baptised three years ago and he wants to get married. What do I do?
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Shantkumar S. Kunjam
Supporter
As an elder, this is my counsel: Whether or not you are formally married, Bible calls you both one flesh (Gen. 2:24), and the children are evidence and seal of your becoming one flesh. Your last sentence says, "I got baptized three years ago and he wants to get married." It is not clear whether he wants to get married with you or he wants to be married with any other person. If he wants to get formally married with you, then consult your pastor and do what he says. As for me, I will not have any problem. Only thing that some of the formalities of the church will need to be fulfilled. If he wants to marry any other person because you are now baptized, then you will face some problem, like, how to divide the family assets, what will happen to the children, etc. If this is the case, I would have counseled you to get his consent or opinion for your baptism. Anyway, consult your pastor or any mature Christian person what to do next. My prayers are with you. May God bless you to know His will for your life.
Andrew Osakue
Supporter
1Cor 7:12-16 will help your situation very well. An unbelieving partner can be an instrument of salvation for the other. I. Must state that being a true believer goes beyond going to church and singing songs and baptism. You must be transformed by the Holy Spirit through a progressive sanctification. If you are not sure of your salvation, you need to surrender your life to Christ all over again and pray your partner into the kingdom.
Dan Rivers
Supporter
I agree that you and your husband are ONE flesh and your children are the evidence of that! Go ahead and marry him, no one knows what the Lord has in store for him. Also read 1 Cor 7... May the Lord bless you and yours!
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