How does one deal with choosing faith over family?
Family and friends want me to forget my husband exsits for he has sinned against me. I have forgiven him and want to work past this, for there are children involved. He admitted his sin and is taking his own steps towards God, but because I want to stay and fix this my family has disowned me.I feel torn between between two worlds, what I feel is the Christain thing to do and what pepole want me to do. I'm being looked at and judged and it hurts.
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Singapore Moses
God's eternal idea in creation to accomplish His purposes is the Family. Husband and wife are called "heirs together of the grace of love" (1 Pet 3:7). We are admonished not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers (2 Cor 6:14,15). If a child of God marries a child of the devil, he will have problems with his "father-in-law." If the person proposed to you is not a believer, you do not need to "pray about it" at all. The Holy Spirit never contradicts the Holy Scriptures.
Jesus said that when two are agreed together on earth, nothing shall be impossible (Mt 18:19). Apart from your individual time of devotions, spend time with your partner daily for prayer and meditation. Holding your spouse's hand in the prayer closet in holy intercession is a rich experience. On your return from a Convention or a Conference, when your spouse enquires about the programme, do not give a single word answer, "Good!" Narrate all that happened. Tell how God dealt with you during a prayer or a sermon. It is when we walk in the light— openness and transparency—that we can have fellowship with one another (1 Jn 1:7). Spouses should aim to grow together. Maturity thus attained makes the couple a great blessing to the Church and the community. The younger generation needs practical models and workable solutions for the problems in their lives. A godly home is a wonderful example. When husband and wife live in spiritual harmony and fellowship, they can triumphantly face the enemy. "Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him" (Eccl 4:9-12).
Study the biographies of godly couples form the Bible. It is rewarding. Zacharias and Elizabeth were barren but they were a happy and one- minded couple, joyfully serving the Lord (Lk 1:5-7). The husband-wife team is extremely effective in God's work. I thank God for my wife who stands with me in the joys and sorrows, victories and problems in the ministry. Visit homes and the sick together with your spouse and witness how God manifests His power. Don't despise your spouse if he or she is not as spiritual as you are. Give the spouse all possible encouragement and appreciation. This helps growth. Let this famous walltext be true in your case—
Christ is the Head of this House;
The unseen Guest at every Meal;
The silent Listener to every Conversation!