My husband and I need to talk out our problems, I want God to lead us, so how do I know what to say to my husband while I wait on God, in His time, to heal this? Do I try to discuss our issues, do I not say anything? I don't know what to do while I wait. I pray and pray daily about it and am reading my bible daily.
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The Bible tells us to allow ourselves to be a "lamp" for others. It also tells us that we are one with our spouse and that our union that cannot be broken. No matter what...we remained joined to our covenant spouse. We also know that marriage was created to most closely resemble the love Jesus has for the church. This means we can always study Jesus and how he loved others and do our best to mimic him.
To me, this means that we keep praying and fasting for our spouses. We wait for the Holy Spirit in them to move and we tryst in God for the good that will come to our marriages through this. God will use this for the good of your marriage. Remember that this is s test, a trial, and in order for you to pass, you must keep being a Godly, submissive, and gentle wife. While your husband might not respond now, you are being a true symbol of Gods' love for him. You are standing in the gap and you need to cling closer and closer to God and pray and fast in order to keep him, or you, from falling into one of Satan's strongholds...like divorce or you giving up.
Keep praying and reading your Bible. If you are not fasting, fast for your marriage. Show your husband your love for him but that God comes first. Encourage him to join you in reading the Bible, attending a marriage conference, etc.. However, try not to push him. Encourage him, ask him to to do Godly things with you, but allow him to see your God-given spirit. Lastly, wait for God to lift up your marriage and know He will.
It seems like you are doing what you can. For myself, I pray to God for the right words to say or the wisdom and strength to keep my mouth shut. If it really feels right, really right, it just might be.
Better to say nothing than to say something that you regret. The bell cannot be unrung. I pray it works out for both of you.
Only God can change a person. Trust Him with all your heart.
What I did while I waited was to study and work on becoming a godly woman as described in Proverbs 31. I believe that God was leading me to be worthy of the Godly man that He, Himself would make. It took much time and much change on my part as I studied and wrestled to follow the directions in Pro 31.
Let not your heart be troubled Jn. ch. 14.1