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Danny Hickman
Oh man, I do wish life was as simple as what I read here on gotquestions!! Alas, it isn't!
How does he know she doesn't love him? Did she tell him outright, standing face to face? How long have they been married? Are they young or are they old geezers?
Just listing scriptures for people to read when they are bleeding from the heart is malpractice, in my opinion.
It matters how the man came to believe that his wife doesn't love him. Does he believe the fire went out over a period of time from neglect, or did he repeatedly throw water on it? Does he want to try to repair the damage, or does he want to know his best path to getting out of the marriage?
The undercurrent to this is the idea that divorce is completely out of the question. No one goes to a christian counselor looking to be told to divorce their spouse FOR ANY REASON other than for sexual immorality.
There is no sexual immorality involved here, so divorce is not an option. So what can the man do? I think he's stuck! He can pray about it, but he's still stuck. He might be a 25 year old married man, desperately desiring the love and affection of a loving wife, but he's still stuck!
At 25 I'd do differently than I'd do at 65; I think most of us would.
The real question: what is the RIGHT thing to do? It is to love the woman you CHOSE to marry the way Jesus loves the people he CHOSE to save. What way is that? UNCONDITIONALLY!
Also, oblige her. Jesus doesn't imprison us against our will.