S. Michael Houdmann Supporter Got Questions Ministries

Loving others can be extremely difficult at times. A common phrase to refer to those people that we consistently find ourselves challenged to love is "extra grace required" people. But even people ...

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July 01 2013 • 2 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Daniel Veler Supporter

The key to understanding loving one another is whether or not God has put his love in your heart. You see, one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit is God’s love. Scriptures tell us us if we say we love God and hate our brother, that man is a liar, for the love of God is not in him. 

1 John 4: 7: Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. 8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. 9 In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him. 10 Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us.

1 John 4: 20: If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? 21 And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also.

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March 17 2024 • 0 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Wilfrid Friedrich Nietzsche Supporter

How can we love each other when...
"the misfortune of one is the happiness of the other" (Law of Jungle) (Ec 8:9)?
How can we love one another when we were created "self-destructive" ?

"All this I saw, as I applied my mind to everything done under the sun. There is a time when a man lords it over others to his own hurt."(Ec 8:9) 

"Most important relationship we can all have is the one you have with yourself, the most important journey you can take is one of self-discovery. To know yourself, you must spend time with yourself, you must not be afraid to be alone. Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom." (Aristotle)

"He is his own best friend, and takes delight in privacy whereas the man of no virtue or ability is his own worst enemy and is afraid of solitude." (Aristotle)

"Having a lot of friend's is having no friends" (Aristotle)
"The friend of everybody is not a friend" (Aristotle)

"Our neighbour is not our neighbour, but our neighbor's neighbour (W.F. Nietzsche) In other word's, nobody cares about anybody !

Of course, “But the worst enemy you can meet will always be yourself" (W.F. Nietzsche), meaning "self-destructive"

"I think that nobody should trust nobody, I think that all people are assholes until proving different and I think that if you take that point of view, you'll be disappointed less in life. If you always expect the worst from people then the minute they do something nice it's a pleasure. If you think the people are good then you'll always be disappointed, because they're not! They don't care ! Don't expect friends, don't expect fun, don't expect a good life, don't expect anything and if you get something (from life), it's a bonus." 
(Frank Zappa)

It is clear that Frank Zappa, Aristotle & Nietzsche promoted "loneliness" (over altruism).

Why is that ? Why do GREAT & honest thinker's such as these guy's preach "loneliness" & at the same time "self-destruction" when there is "no trust" to have in our neighbor ? Cause of course, our neighbour was also created "self-destructive" & "selfish". So how can we love one another when human nature = "selfishness" ? "Selfishness" begins with "procreation". The desire of having a cute little "toy" to play "God" with ! "Don't do this, don't do that ! But do this, & do that !" = (Manipulation). 
I'd rather do a "humanitarian action" : "adoption" (helping a life already in hell instead of putting one in hell; 1 Jn 5:19) 

So preaching "altruism" goes in contradiction with "selfishness" (procreation) cause life is all about "manipulating" our neighbor (Ec 8:9) in "each" facet of our lives. Love = "possession" (conditional love) for the Holy Bible. It's understood (2 Co 5:14,15) ! ((But ALSO by ABUSIVE POWER of NON-CHRISTIAN AUTHORITIES, allowed by God (Rm 13:1-5))

& that is what religion is all about ! & that is what the Elites of the Elites of this world (Elohim, Abusive-Sheppards) on top of the freemason pyramid are preaching also : "Your life & everything you possess belong's to us & all your moves are controled by us !"

So finally, my question is : How can we love one another (altruism) when the MAIN REASON of human nature = "selfishness" ? In other word's : Doesn't "altruism" go in contradiction with "selfishness" (procreation-human nature's race for hapiness) ?

October 11 2013 • 1 response • Vote Up • Share • Report

Jeffrey Johnson Supporter

Why is loving others often so difficult?

Loving others is fundamentally difficult because it requires us to look past our natural self-preservation. It forces us to confront our deepest insecurities, past emotional wounds, and the reality that opening ourselves up to others always carries the risk of being hurt or misunderstood.

People struggle to genuinely care for and connect with others typically stems from several deeply ingrained barriers:

Vulnerability and Fear of Rejection: To love someone, you must drop your defences. If you have been hurt in the past, putting your emotional well-being into someone else's hands feels incredibly risky, making it tempting to build walls instead.

Selfishness and Human Flaws: Humans are naturally wired to prioritise their own needs, comfort, and desires. Loving someone else requires patience, compromise, and selflessness, which can clash heavily with our daily ego.

Misconception of Love: We often view love solely as an emotion. When the "falling in love" phase fades, or difficult feelings arise, we might assume love is gone, whereas true, lasting love requires active commitment and sacrifice, even when it feels like hard work.

Unresolved Internal Pain: People often project their own insecurities, unresolved pain, or a lack of self-love onto others. When we don't feel worthy or secure in ourselves, it becomes vastly harder to offer unconditional care to someone else.

God's Word doesn't shy away from the fact that loving others can be incredibly difficult. Still, it repeatedly calls for unconditional, grace-filled love, even when it feels unnatural or painful.

Romans 12:9-10: "Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honour".

Colossians 3:13: "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."

Ephesians 4:2: "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love."

Jesus encouraged others to love their enemies [or those whom we find to love].

When we're trying to love others even when it's hard, remember this: We know true love, and we can love because Jesus Christ laid down His life so we might have life (1 John 3:16-18).

We also need to exercise patience towards those who have difficult personalities. When you're being patient, you are less likely to speak out of turn; you're less likely to add fuel to the fire; and you're more likely to act with integrity and kindness, and as a result, better understand where the other person is coming from.

Paul's words sum up as to what we should do - "Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." (1 Corinthians 13:7).

1 Corinthians 13:7 is a challenge. – love bears all things. That includes difficulties and hard times. We show our love to others by bearing with them.

Note: Proverbs 25:21-23: "If thine enemy be hungry, give him bread to eat; And if he be thirsty, give him water to drink: 22 For thou wilt heap coals of fire upon his head, And Jehovah will reward thee."

June 09 2026 • 0 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report