Should a spouse physically leave their spouse to be near their child?

Hello!

My husband has a 6-year-old girl in TX. She is safe, surrounded by his family and has a great mom. We all get along, which is amazing. 

We moved a couple years ago to Florida for my work. We openly talked about it and I never imposed anything. He agreed to move and we had the little one each summer. 

Fast forward to now, he made the decision to move back to TX last December to be next to his child. When we were in Texas he would have her every other weekend. He plans to move this September.

I informed him his decision was abrupt but I was not against moving back. I am the only one with a stable income and it will put us in a bad spot. I feel like he made a rushed decision and I was excluded from the process. He also told me that he is firm about his decision and his child is his priority. 

I discovered last month that I have some health issues and the medical team is still digging into it. I told him that I needed more time because I cannot afford to lose my job and my insurance. He was present during one of my appointments so he knows how important it is, but still decided to move back to TX. 

I feel alone in this entire process. I gave him my blessings to go back, but he's giving me pushback for me staying. He wants both of us in Texas but he cannot support me financially. I have been the one doing it the past three years. I told him that my plan is to extend my stay in Florida for 6-8months to give me time to finish what I need to do medically and to give me time to find a proper job in TX for a smoother transition. He understands but doesn’t like the solution. 

He respects my point of view and I respect his, but I really feel left aside as a spouse. 

Any advice? 

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