I have a child outside my marriage and my wife wants me to reject the child, she does not want me to go visit the child. She actually wants me to deny I am the father of the child which I can’t. I have asked God for forgiveness and I believe I should not neglect my responsibility towards the child. I needed advice as to how to treat the child and the child’s mother. Do I take her on as a second wife? Or forget the relationship and just focus on taking care of my child only?
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My advice is that if you have a church home, set up a session or sessions with a counselor there. That way your wife gets the benefit of godly suggestions rather than the two of you just going at it and getting nowhere.