What are some useful tips, good biblical examples or bad biblical examples that teach how or how not to correct your husband?
Can you give some useful tips, good biblical examples or bad biblical examples that teach how or how not to correct your husband? I have a lot more time for prayer and bible study than my husband does and over the years I have surpassed him in the knowledge of God and the bible. How do I correct him when he is in error about the scriptures in a way that does not offend him?
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Donna Crayne
I have this same problem at my house. I don't have a elaborate answer. I can only share with you what i do. I pray for him first off. I ask The Heavenly Father to convict his sin in his heart. I listen to gospel music when he's around and i read the bible out loud. I pray that Our Great God will change their hearts as they see the changes in "US" their wives lives. As Christ changes and transforms His Children's lives. Try to remember as the bible says, If the Husband be a Nonbeliever but the Wife be a believer and it pleases him to dwell with her, she shall not leave him for this reason. As the wife will sanctify her Husband. Hope this helped some. God bless you and your home.
Karen Sweeney
Thanks for your answer. You said,“I suggest you pray for him to realize his sin rather then pointing out his faults to him.” What if the things that are pointed out are not necessarily faults? I just point them out because he is in error about what the bible says and think he would like to be aware of it. I have found that sometimes a week, two weeks, a month, year or even years later he has come to the correct conclusion without my mentioning anything about it. I then think about the very first unpleasant conversation and wonder if I never planted the seed in the first place if the subject would have been on his mind to notice and come around to the correct way of thinking.
I am trying to prevent the unpleasantness from the first conversation.
You also mentioned “my husband feels disrespected unless I do it out of love”. How do you know 100% if what you are saying is out of love? Most of the time I would guess that I say things 50% love, 50% informing? What if it is informing out of love? Sometimes I even say things out of love for God but not my husband. If I analyze every word before I speak to make sure that what I am saying is 100% out of love for him then I would probably rarely speak to him unless spoken to.
In case you are wondering, he is a believer. Sometime I wonder if he really and truly believes 1John4:2“Jesus Christ has come in the flesh” though or just thinks the bible is a good moral story that he likes to read the new testament part of.Thanks
Catrina Alston-Soto
I think the best way is not to correct him, just pray for him in this area and allow God to bring correction as God is the only one with the Power to judge and bring Correction to Man.
Peggy Johnson
If he has a smart phone or a device that will let you put the eBible app on...he may start verifying his answers before he speaks up.
You might make it a game and play "who got the answer first" .
Good luck and Gods blessing to you and your husband.